It's weird how sadness provides me with inspiration for writing which,by the way,doesn't mean I am emo.Okay maybe a wee bit.But not much.Anyway right now I am totally in the mood to create something only because my heart is aching-hurting a lot.I know I am speaking as if I am about to invent a space-shuttle of some kind which can travel through to another universe but trust me creating something out of a piece o' paper and an ordinary pen or just a plain notepad page and your keyboard keys is something of no less importance.Atleast I feel that way.And I am sure there will be quite a 'few' people out there who'll agree.
Anyway before I begin digressing like hell(is that even an expression?maybe not...but what the heck?Most poeple are too much into profanity..so I am writing it anyway)I should kick-start this.So tears huh?What about them?
I'll tell you.
Official definition from Merriam Webster site- a drop of clear saline fluid secreted by the lacrimal gland and diffused between the eye and eyelids to moisten the parts and facilitate their motion plural : a secretion of profuse tears that overflow the eyelids and dampen the face.
But there's more to the word 'tears' and it's meaning than that.And here's a feeble attempt on my part to bring out it's significance.So here goes-
They say tears are a sign of weakness.Your tears are a living(or non-living? -_-) proof of the fact that you are so weak,vulnerable,not strong at all.
In a country called India where emotions,spiritual well-being and relationships are valued more than materialistic matters people say 'Don't waste these tears.They are precious pearls.' to soothe the heart-broken and the grieving.
A fact worth noticing is that tears seem to be conspicuously absent in about 99% of the entire male population of the world.Boys don't cry.Boys should never cry.Otherwise they wouldn't be men.They would be er..sissies.Or it could be that their lacrimal glands are missing or something.
Tears are-what should I say?-a woman's thing.Women and tears are associated in just about the same way a mother and her baby or Einstein and the theory of relativity or perhaps Pamela Anderson and cleavage are.Women are supposedly weak-emotionally and physically and psychologically and well in every damned way possible.So whenever a woman is wronged or hurt or witnesses someone else being wronged she gets emo and she cries.She can't fight back and she isn't even 'tough' enough to ignore an act of cruelty or inconsideration.So what she does is shed tears.How truly pathetic!
And pathetically enough I am also a specimen of this 'pathetic' species.And this means I cry.Cry now and then.Cry when I am sad.Cry when someone else close to me is sad.Cry when I feel lonely.Cry when friends turn out to be..well..not that friendly.Cry when I see a little child in tattered rags washing dishes in a streetfood-stall with a genuine smile playing about her lips.Cry when an 80 year-old man barely able to walk around approaches me on the pavement and offers me a pack of incense sticks for 10 bucks.
Okay I am being a bit over-dramatic here I guess.I don't cry all the bloody time.But these things do make me sad to the point where I am on the verge of tears.So does this mean I am weak?
BLOODY HELL no it doesn't.It means I am a human being-not a cyborg.For some reason the fact that I can actually cry for someone else apart from myself makes me feel happy-relieved even.And I think anyone who has a heart that can feel for another,that can bleed for another has nothing to be ashamed of.'Cause it's only when we feel pain like this that we truly seek to find a way to heal it.And that makes us strong-not weak.
In most situations people draw strength from their bittermost memories and painful experiences to carry on with life.It's only when we witness the distress of others that we feel the urge to alleviate it.Many would probably share the opinion that 'People can take care of their own damn misery.We have much more important things to do.' Yea like what?-Taking care of your own selfish needs and turning a blind eye to everything else just like you have done for most of your truly meaningless life?If we do that all the time don't we degrade ourselves from humans to some lower life-forms?
I think we do.
It's okay to feel sad and vulnerable.It's okay to turn to somebody to support you when you can't do it yourself.And it's totally more than okay to shed tears for someone in pain.'Cause it's agony like this that gives us the strength to endure and to overcome.In a way it also helps us to get in touch with our humane sides which,strangely enough,all of us are losing at an alarming rate.
So I say let it all out honey.And cry!